I wrote this at the end of June, but forgot to post it. Here’s a little bit about my transition to Memphis. I’ll try to write another post soon about how it’s going now! My situation is slightly less depressing- ha.
It’s been about two weeks since I’ve moved to Memphis (why am I in Memphis in the first place? Check out: https://karenli1.wordpress.com/2014/04/28/i-didnt-choose-the-thug-life-the-thug-life-chose-me-aka-what-ill-be-doing-after-i-graduate/) and I’ve been realizing more and more that the transition into adulthood/the real world is actually really difficult. Such difficulties include:
1) Paying living costs. My monthly budget includes: rent- $350, utilities- $35, car insurance- $90, groceries- $100, giving, and student loans. Oh, did I mention, I make a $1400 monthly stipend? I’m also saving up for my wedding in March. Yeah, that makes things kind of um, really hard. I guess living in a dorm for 3.5 years made me really sheltered to real world living expenses.
2) Getting to know the city. I don’t know where anything is! Well, except for my workplace, a local coffee shop, a bank, and the grocery store (they’re all basically on the same street). I use my GPS to get around otherwise! It’s pretty embarrassing. I need to venture into new places, but going exploring alone is quite intimidating…
3) Figuring out what to do with free time. I work from 8:00am-4:30pm and I’m totally free afterwards. At home, I’d hang out with my friends, get involved in my church, or watch Netflix. Sadly, without many friends, a church to call home, or internet in my apartment, I have to find some new hobbies. I’m getting a library card soon, so I’ll soon be reading a lot. I’ll also probably be going to more board game and Spanish conversational meet-ups I find on http://www.meetup.com/ (not a dating website, I swear).
Update: I got a library card and am trying to read two books a week (I’m currently failing; I’m still on book 1). I also like to tell people now: I play board games with strangers in a café on Thursday nights because I have no friends. And because I have attended said board game nights, I’ve met a lot of middle-aged men. Sounds kinda weird, but they’re chill and cool to hang out with.
4) Learning to be alone. I lived 3 ½ years in a dorm and a semester in Ecuador with a host family. I was almost never alone and I became accustomed to constantly having company. It feels weird and different to be alone so much. I’m trying to enjoy the solitude, since I won’t have much of it after I’m married (ha, hope you’re reading this, Andrew!), but I also crave the companionship of others.
I’m trying not to freak out so much, because it’s only the first month I’ve been here, so I remind myself that transition takes time. Things are looking up; God’s got my back. Dios le pague. Paz.